How to Love with Awareness and to Relate without Fear
How to Love with Awareness and Relate Without Fear:With his characteristic wit, humor and understanding, Osho dares us to resist the unhealthy relationship patterns we learn from those around us, and rediscover the meaning of love for ourselves: “By the time you are ready to explore the world of love, you are filled with so much rubbish about love that there is not much hope for you to be able to find the authentic, and discard the false.” Being in Love will inspire you to welcome love into your life anew – and experience the joy of being truly alive by sharing it.
WHAT IS LOVE?
“What is love? It is unfortunate that we have to ask this question. In the natural course of things everybody would know what love is. But in fact nobody knows, or only very rarely does somebody know, what love is. Films and stories are written about it, songs are composed about it, on the television shows you will see it, on the radio, in magazines – a great industry exists to supply you with ideas of what love is. Many people are involved in the industry of helping people understand what love is.
Love Remains an Unknown Phenomenon
But still love remains an unknown phenomenon. And it should be one of the most known. “It is almost like somebody asking, “What is food? ” Would you not be surprised if somebody came and asked you that question? Only if somebody has been starved from the very beginning and has never tasted food would the question be relevant. It is the same with the question “What is love?” “Love is the food of the soul, but you have been starved. Your soul has not received love at all, so you don’t know the taste. So the question is relevant, but it is unfortunate.
BEING IN LOVE: NEDERLANDS
In het boek Being in Love Osho geeft aan, dat we vol zitten met de meest verrotte denkbeelden over liefde. Tegen de tijd dat we liefde manifesteren en op zoek gaan naar liefde, zijn we helemaal geprogrammeerd.
En het is onwaarschijnlijk dat we dan echte voedende liefde kunnen onderscheiden van bijvoorbeeld bezitterige liefde. Dit boek helpt bij het ontwarren van de kluwen op liefdesgebied. Zo kunnen we een liefde, die nieuw en fris is, verwelkomen in ons leven.
Onder meer worden er in dit boek vragen beantwoord over de volgende onderwerpen:
- Liefhebben zonder je vast te klampen
- Het loslaten van verwachtingen, regels en eisen
- Houd je liefde fris en levendig
Impressie van Being in Love
What Is Love?
In this thoughtful, provocative work, Osho—one of the most revolutionary thinkers of our time—challenges us to question what we think we know about love and opens us to the possibility of a love that is natural, fulfilling, and free of possessiveness and jealousy.
With his characteristic wit, humor, and understanding, Osho dares us to resist the unhealthy relationship patterns we’ve learned from those around us, and to rediscover the meaning of love for ourselves. “By the time you are ready to explore the world of love, you are filled with so much rubbish about love that there is not much hope for you to be able to find the authentic and discard the false.”
By answering the questions that so many lovers face, Osho shares new ways to love that will forever change how you relate to others, including how to:
• Love without clinging
• Let go of expectations, rules, and demands
• Free yourself from the fear of being alone
• Be fully present in your relationships
• Keep your love fresh and alive
• Become a life partner with whom someone could continue to grow and change
• Surrender your ego so you can surrender to love
Being in Love will inspire you to welcome love into your life anew and experience the joy of being truly alive by sharing it.
Fragments from Being in Love
“You have to remember that freedom is the highest value and if love is not giving you freedom then it is not love. Freedom is a criterion: anything that gives you freedom is right, and anything that destroys your freedom is wrong. If you can remember this small criterion your life, slowly, will start settling on the right path about everything: your relationships, your meditations, your creativity, whatever you are.”
Osho, Being in Love
“So the second thing to remember is never to demand perfection. You have no right to demand anything from anybody. If somebody loves you, be thankful, but don’t demand anything—because the other has no obligation to love you.” Osho, being in Love
Each Child is Born full of Love
The body has received food so the body continues; but the soul has not received food so the soul is dead, or is not born yet, or is always on its deathbed. “When we are born we are born fully equipped with the capacity to love and to be loved. Each child is born full of love and knows perfectly what it is. There is no need to tell a child what love is…. “I cannot define what love is because there is no definition of love. It is one of those indefinables like birth, like death, like God, like meditation. It is one of those indefinables – I cannot define it. I cannot say that “this is love,” I cannot show it to you. It is not a visible phenomenon. It cannot be dissected, cannot be analyzed; it can only be experienced, and only through experience do you know what it is. But I can show you the way to experience it…. “First you have to understand the love that is a natural phenomenon. Even that has not happened. First you have to understand the natural, and then the transcendental. So the second thing to remember is, never be in search for a perfect man or a perfect woman. That idea too has been put into your mind – that unless you find a perfect man or a perfect woman you will not be happy. So you go on looking for the perfect, and you don’t find it, so you are unhappy. To flow and grow in love needs no perfection.” Osho